Comments on: Perspective. http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html Life in the Country Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:54:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Snoskred http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9663 Snoskred Tue, 18 Sep 2007 00:49:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9663 Kirsten - it would be really hard for me to show how I felt in that situation. <br/><br/>Ali - That puts things into perspective, doesn't it? I am taking that advice - and treasuring the people who matter much more than I did before.<br/><br/>Magpie - One thing we never have control over is the behaviour of others. Sad but true. :( It is good to hear she is doing well though. Like I said, I do not think a diagnosis should be regarded as an instant death sentence. I think some doctors do think that way.<br/><br/>Cugat - Is this about the porn again? ;) The kissing bit, I mean. <br/><br/>Forest - I think it is important for all of us bloggers to get a bit personal from time to time. This one was difficult to write and it did upset me to write it, but I had to get it out. <br/><br/>Dorothy - I believe miracles do happen as well. I also believe one day there will be a cure for cancer.<br/><br/>River - sometimes we cannot worry about the people we will hurt, if there is a change we need to make for us. I knew my parents would not love us moving down here. But I also knew we had to do it. I knew leaving my husband would hurt him, but I also knew I had to do it. If I had not done it I dread to think of where I would be now. Sometimes the hardest things to change, the things that make us emotional just to think about it, these are the most important. It is difficult to live through it, sure it is.. :(<br/><br/>Chani - What about the wat? What about going to live in Thailand? If I handed you the money for a plane ticket to Thailand right now today would you be off to buy one, or would you stay in the stream you're in now?<br/><br/>Jon - Amen to that. :) I have quit jobs before without knowing where I would go from there, but it was important to get out before the negativity took me over completely.<br/><br/>Teeni - it must change how you look at things, I think. For me it would make me change being so concerned with the minute, little, unimportant stuff. At least I think it would.<br/><br/>Kin - I also become a blubbering mess during those movies. Depression is not a fun thing, I have been there a few times myself. I now know the warning signs and keep a close eye out for them. I'm sorry for your losses. :(<br/><br/>Thanks for the comments all. ;)<br/>Snoskred Kirsten - it would be really hard for me to show how I felt in that situation.

Ali - That puts things into perspective, doesn’t it? I am taking that advice - and treasuring the people who matter much more than I did before.

Magpie - One thing we never have control over is the behaviour of others. Sad but true. :( It is good to hear she is doing well though. Like I said, I do not think a diagnosis should be regarded as an instant death sentence. I think some doctors do think that way.

Cugat - Is this about the porn again? ;) The kissing bit, I mean.

Forest - I think it is important for all of us bloggers to get a bit personal from time to time. This one was difficult to write and it did upset me to write it, but I had to get it out.

Dorothy - I believe miracles do happen as well. I also believe one day there will be a cure for cancer.

River - sometimes we cannot worry about the people we will hurt, if there is a change we need to make for us. I knew my parents would not love us moving down here. But I also knew we had to do it. I knew leaving my husband would hurt him, but I also knew I had to do it. If I had not done it I dread to think of where I would be now. Sometimes the hardest things to change, the things that make us emotional just to think about it, these are the most important. It is difficult to live through it, sure it is.. :(

Chani - What about the wat? What about going to live in Thailand? If I handed you the money for a plane ticket to Thailand right now today would you be off to buy one, or would you stay in the stream you’re in now?

Jon - Amen to that. :) I have quit jobs before without knowing where I would go from there, but it was important to get out before the negativity took me over completely.

Teeni - it must change how you look at things, I think. For me it would make me change being so concerned with the minute, little, unimportant stuff. At least I think it would.

Kin - I also become a blubbering mess during those movies. Depression is not a fun thing, I have been there a few times myself. I now know the warning signs and keep a close eye out for them. I’m sorry for your losses. :(

Thanks for the comments all. ;)
Snoskred

]]> By: Kin http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9640 Kin Mon, 17 Sep 2007 05:01:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9640 I had such a rough childhood in terms of cancer. The only child of an only child, within 10 years I'd lost 3 grandparents and a parent to cancer, along with two friends to accidents, and it hasn't stopped. I often slip into depression, and drag myself out by stopping, looking at where I am, where I want to be and working out what I need to do to get there. Then I do it.<br/><br/>I must admit I haven't looked at the links, I just can't. I can't even watch a movie where are parent dies without becoming a blubbering mess. I cry and wail weekly that I want my Mummy, and that it's not fair. It's not. It totally totally sux. I never want my kids to feel that.<br/><br/>Maybe one day I'll get past it. In the meantime I and on track to what I want out of live, and I'm enjoying (mostly) the journey along the way! I had such a rough childhood in terms of cancer. The only child of an only child, within 10 years I’d lost 3 grandparents and a parent to cancer, along with two friends to accidents, and it hasn’t stopped. I often slip into depression, and drag myself out by stopping, looking at where I am, where I want to be and working out what I need to do to get there. Then I do it.

I must admit I haven’t looked at the links, I just can’t. I can’t even watch a movie where are parent dies without becoming a blubbering mess. I cry and wail weekly that I want my Mummy, and that it’s not fair. It’s not. It totally totally sux. I never want my kids to feel that.

Maybe one day I’ll get past it. In the meantime I and on track to what I want out of live, and I’m enjoying (mostly) the journey along the way!

]]> By: teeni http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9627 teeni Sat, 15 Sep 2007 02:36:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9627 This was a little too close to home for me and a hard read. I had breast cancer also and just got through a mastectomy/chemo/radiation last year. I am hoping for the best for your friend. I did look at the links but I will have to work up more courage before I can comment on her site. Cancer is such a scary thing. I will be keeping her in my thoughts and prayers though. Great post. This was a little too close to home for me and a hard read. I had breast cancer also and just got through a mastectomy/chemo/radiation last year. I am hoping for the best for your friend. I did look at the links but I will have to work up more courage before I can comment on her site. Cancer is such a scary thing. I will be keeping her in my thoughts and prayers though. Great post.

]]> By: Jon http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9623 Jon Fri, 14 Sep 2007 20:11:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9623 I actually was up for a promotion and had 13 years seniority when I quit my job four months ago. <br/><br/>I did it for exactly the reasons you talked about. <br/><br/>Sometimes you just have to stop waiting for your life to begin because before you know it, it's all over.<br/><br/>Life isn't a dress rehearsal. I actually was up for a promotion and had 13 years seniority when I quit my job four months ago.

I did it for exactly the reasons you talked about.

Sometimes you just have to stop waiting for your life to begin because before you know it, it’s all over.

Life isn’t a dress rehearsal.

]]> By: thailandchani http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9621 thailandchani Fri, 14 Sep 2007 15:59:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9621 I can't think of anything I'd change necessarily. Somehow, I came with an inherent faith that I am where I'm supposed to be. That doesn't necessarily mean it always <i>feel</i> good.. but I know that feeling good isn't the sole purpose of my existence. <br/><br/>It all works out.. as it should. I just stay in the stream. <br/><br/><br/>Peace, <br/><br/>~Chani<br/>http://thailandgal.blogspot.com I can’t think of anything I’d change necessarily. Somehow, I came with an inherent faith that I am where I’m supposed to be. That doesn’t necessarily mean it always feel good.. but I know that feeling good isn’t the sole purpose of my existence.

It all works out.. as it should. I just stay in the stream.

Peace,

~Chani
http://thailandgal.blogspot.com

]]> By: River http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9611 River Fri, 14 Sep 2007 06:10:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9611 Now you've got me thinking. There are a few things I would change if I could (key words being IF I could), but the ONE thing? Hmmm, much thought needed here. Some things I've already changed, other changes may hurt people I don't care to hurt.<br/>I had my own near brush with cancer almost 18 years ago. I'd put off having a pap smear forever and one day just went in for one. I was found to have pre-cancerous lesions requiring a hysterectomy. These lesions were in the final state of change before actually being cancer so I was lucky. One more year before discovery would have been too late for me as the lesions were widespread throughout my reproductive areas. I'd already had my babies so I was more than happy to have the hysterectomy. Since then my Dad has died from lung cancer, he smoked heavily all his life from age 12, and my Mum from bowel cancer, caused by the same improper diet which brought on her diabetes. Every two years now I have the necessary checkups to make sure I'm not going the same way. My parents were in their 70's, but all ancestors back to the 1800's lived long lives, so I'm hoping to beat my grandma who lived to be 96. Now you’ve got me thinking. There are a few things I would change if I could (key words being IF I could), but the ONE thing? Hmmm, much thought needed here. Some things I’ve already changed, other changes may hurt people I don’t care to hurt.
I had my own near brush with cancer almost 18 years ago. I’d put off having a pap smear forever and one day just went in for one. I was found to have pre-cancerous lesions requiring a hysterectomy. These lesions were in the final state of change before actually being cancer so I was lucky. One more year before discovery would have been too late for me as the lesions were widespread throughout my reproductive areas. I’d already had my babies so I was more than happy to have the hysterectomy. Since then my Dad has died from lung cancer, he smoked heavily all his life from age 12, and my Mum from bowel cancer, caused by the same improper diet which brought on her diabetes. Every two years now I have the necessary checkups to make sure I’m not going the same way. My parents were in their 70’s, but all ancestors back to the 1800’s lived long lives, so I’m hoping to beat my grandma who lived to be 96.

]]> By: Dorothy http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9609 Dorothy Fri, 14 Sep 2007 05:31:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9609 I discuss this with God every night. I ask him to give me more to give. And he usually does. I have a wonderful family, daughter, grandchildren, great grandchild, siblings, husbands and some pretty remarkable friends for over 35 years,<br/><br/>And now like you, I can't believe the friends I've made here..thank you..your one of them...<br/><br/>Life has been good. I had breast cancer three years ago in February and I hated reading the post, however, I know it to be true. One of the things, we all want when It's time, and your right you never know when..is to be remembered. Your a good person and your kindness is immeasurable.<br/><br/>Keep up the kind words and thoughts you pass on they are your legacy..and it's hard to understand how you are perceived by your readers. <br/><br/>Take it from me and others I read the comments you get...your doing a wonderful job. I'll pray for your friend. Miracles do happen.<br/><br/>Dorothy I discuss this with God every night. I ask him to give me more to give. And he usually does. I have a wonderful family, daughter, grandchildren, great grandchild, siblings, husbands and some pretty remarkable friends for over 35 years,

And now like you, I can’t believe the friends I’ve made here..thank you..your one of them…

Life has been good. I had breast cancer three years ago in February and I hated reading the post, however, I know it to be true. One of the things, we all want when It’s time, and your right you never know when..is to be remembered. Your a good person and your kindness is immeasurable.

Keep up the kind words and thoughts you pass on they are your legacy..and it’s hard to understand how you are perceived by your readers.

Take it from me and others I read the comments you get…your doing a wonderful job. I’ll pray for your friend. Miracles do happen.

Dorothy

]]> By: Forest Parks http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9608 Forest Parks Fri, 14 Sep 2007 02:01:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9608 One day 5 years ago my best friend died! Aged 20 it was very unfair I thought.No warning or anything, just gone!<br/><br/>I decided then I would not take any crap anymore and that life was going to be lead the way I wanted.<br/><br/>I managed to follow that for a while and then I ended up slipping back into unwanted routines and ended up owning a flat becoming lonely and spending far too much money trying to compensate for unhappiness.<br/><br/>I recognised this and made sure I went back to my old way of thought.<br/><br/>Life always has tough, hard unpleasant moments but I think as long as you head in the right direction for yourself and your loved ones then you are doing something right.<br/><br/>I have just reset my life by moving to Montreal, Canada from London, England on a one year visa (I'm investigating ways to stay longer) and I have an amazing partner who lights up my world (sorry for the cliche).<br/><br/>Sadly I still have a few small reminders of the life I didn't want to lead, but fell back into, such as some debt that I'm not in a position to pay back and taxes that need filing. But these are minor and I know as long as I keep myself happy and following the correct path things will get resolved at some point.<br/><br/>Thanks for posting this post, most of the time bloggers don't really get too personal and I know I certainly stay away from it for the most part on my blog but at times it is great to realise that all these people I interact with in this virtual world are real and live and breath and think just like me. One day 5 years ago my best friend died! Aged 20 it was very unfair I thought.No warning or anything, just gone!

I decided then I would not take any crap anymore and that life was going to be lead the way I wanted.

I managed to follow that for a while and then I ended up slipping back into unwanted routines and ended up owning a flat becoming lonely and spending far too much money trying to compensate for unhappiness.

I recognised this and made sure I went back to my old way of thought.

Life always has tough, hard unpleasant moments but I think as long as you head in the right direction for yourself and your loved ones then you are doing something right.

I have just reset my life by moving to Montreal, Canada from London, England on a one year visa (I’m investigating ways to stay longer) and I have an amazing partner who lights up my world (sorry for the cliche).

Sadly I still have a few small reminders of the life I didn’t want to lead, but fell back into, such as some debt that I’m not in a position to pay back and taxes that need filing. But these are minor and I know as long as I keep myself happy and following the correct path things will get resolved at some point.

Thanks for posting this post, most of the time bloggers don’t really get too personal and I know I certainly stay away from it for the most part on my blog but at times it is great to realise that all these people I interact with in this virtual world are real and live and breath and think just like me.

]]> By: Cugat http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9607 Cugat Thu, 13 Sep 2007 22:42:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9607 It's important to tell loved ones that you love them. Also important to kiss them. Often. <br/><br/><a HREF="http://www.vegetative.net/" REL="nofollow">Cugat</a> It’s important to tell loved ones that you love them. Also important to kiss them. Often.

Cugat

]]> By: Magpie http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9606 Magpie Thu, 13 Sep 2007 19:43:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2007/09/perspective.html#comment-9606 I wish my mother didn't have cancer. I wish she hadn't smoked for more than 50 years. I wish she could still drive.<br/><br/>All that said, she was diagnosed nearly three years ago and is still doing pretty well. I wish my mother didn’t have cancer. I wish she hadn’t smoked for more than 50 years. I wish she could still drive.

All that said, she was diagnosed nearly three years ago and is still doing pretty well.

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