Snoskred - Life in the Country

I did not speak to my sister or her other half, except for saying hi. I chose to spend a precious couple of hours with my nephews instead. They were upstairs playing lego - building their Christmas presents that waited here for them until their mother got it together and brought them down (let me not get into that but it’s July, so I think you can take a guess at how I feel about that) and I got to sit there and chat to the boys and it was great. My older nephew is 11 now and his feet are the same size as mine - and I have huge feet for a “lady”.

My younger nephew has been diagnosed with mild autism. Combine that with the fact that he had major ear problems during the time kids learn sounds which was not picked up on until he was about 2 and he still has speech issues even at age 6. He sees a speech therapist and has been going to a school that focuses on helping kids with issues such as autism, but even so his older brother is still his “translator”. Many times last night young nephew would say something and older nephew would say to me what he really meant.

These two kids stick together and it is really lovely to see it. My older nephew told me of his future plans - he wants to be an architect “for a couple of years” while he earns enough money to put together a Lego shop in the city, for both the brothers to work in. I had to bite my lip to keep it together after that one, ya’all.

My niece is crawling around like a demon, she’s just over a year old now. Nobody ever says things like this, I hope you all will forgive me for blogging this. They had stopped in at work so The Other Half saw them during the afternoon. He came home and said “That is one ugly baby. I just had to get it out otherwise it might have come out by accident”. Of course he set me up for endless fits of giggles when I remembered what he’d said but I disagree with him. She has huge eyes and a great smile as well as an apparent fondness for remote controls and anything not nailed down.

So, no bridges mended, no issues sorted out with my sister and her partner, and I still feel very angry towards them both. I feel they should apologise not only to me but to my parents for their very bad behavior. My opinion of my sister has changed completely since when the days we grew up together and I won’t lie to you, I feel she is rude, disrespectful, stubborn, manipulative, a gossip, a user who will take take take and never give back, and someone I really do not wish to associate with in general.

I feel she is someone who lets her anger at her ex-partner ruin her relationship with her two first born children, and now it’s the new baby who is the “star” of the family. You can see a lot of her ex in both the boys, especially the oldest, and she allows that to get in the way of her parenting them. I feel her partner does the same thing, and the boys really don’t have a chance - that’s why they have to stick together.

My sister has turned into someone very like my partner’s ex - a mean spirited person out to hurt her former partner in any way she can - which means I cannot have any respect for her, and what on earth did I ever do to deserve that kind of karma, ya’all? I mean build a bridge and get over it. Yes her ex is an absolute (insert expletives) but there’s a time to put that anger and bitterness in the past and move forward in the best interests of the children.

It is horrible to have to say that about a family member but it is how I feel. Wow, I let a lot of that out. I didn’t expect to unload it all here - I was going to keep most of it just to myself.

I love my nephews and niece, and that is what is important.

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