Comments on: About Letting it go http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html Life in the Country Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:20:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: This was the Year that Was, 2007 | Sephy's Platzish http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-11884 This was the Year that Was, 2007 | Sephy's Platzish Tue, 01 Jan 2008 06:07:17 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-11884 [...] experiences of finally walking out of the hole by way of a reply, which was posted both here and at Snoskred’s site, to this post of [...] [...] experiences of finally walking out of the hole by way of a reply, which was posted both here and at Snoskred’s site, to this post of [...]

]]> By: Snoskred http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8880 Snoskred Sat, 21 Jul 2007 16:01:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8880 Lori - you raise an important point - that the partners of people suffering depression have a hard road, too. <br/><br/>Gerri - I'm glad Sephy has got a game plan - and intends to follow it now, too! ;) Lori - you raise an important point - that the partners of people suffering depression have a hard road, too.

Gerri - I’m glad Sephy has got a game plan - and intends to follow it now, too! ;)

]]> By: Gerri http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8878 Gerri Sat, 21 Jul 2007 09:21:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8878 Thanks for posting an update. I replied to your letting it go post on your blog a couple of days ago. I'm glad you've talked with your doctor and decided on a plan.<br/><br/>Here's to you feeling better soon! Thanks for posting an update. I replied to your letting it go post on your blog a couple of days ago. I’m glad you’ve talked with your doctor and decided on a plan.

Here’s to you feeling better soon!

]]> By: lori http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8876 lori Sat, 21 Jul 2007 06:03:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8876 Hi Sephy. <br/><br/>What you have written is really important to yourself but to others aswell. <br/><br/>I lived with someone who was in a constant cycle of depression. Altho it was attached to some kind of gender dysphoria, as the partner of someone who lived that life with them, it was a constant battle with my own demons not to fall down the same pit that I watched my Ex enter into, month in and month out. <br/><br/>He made promises about counselling he never kept, when he hit his highs, they were high, and his lows were the worst. Finally I had enough and needed to leave for my own mental health. <br/><br/>You are taking steps that he still hasn't taken, you have recognised your battle and are arming yourself. This is to be commended. <br/><br/>Lori Hi Sephy.

What you have written is really important to yourself but to others aswell.

I lived with someone who was in a constant cycle of depression. Altho it was attached to some kind of gender dysphoria, as the partner of someone who lived that life with them, it was a constant battle with my own demons not to fall down the same pit that I watched my Ex enter into, month in and month out.

He made promises about counselling he never kept, when he hit his highs, they were high, and his lows were the worst. Finally I had enough and needed to leave for my own mental health.

You are taking steps that he still hasn’t taken, you have recognised your battle and are arming yourself. This is to be commended.

Lori

]]> By: Snoskred http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8874 Snoskred Sat, 21 Jul 2007 04:58:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8874 Sober Briquette - progress is not necessarily seen until you stand back and take a look at the big picture from a distance. Deleting the blogs makes it harder to see that progress - it's like you write a book chapter by chapter but when you get to stand back and look at your work, there's only the most recent chapter there because the rest has been eaten by bookworms. ;) If you leave it there long enough you will see it and often when you're in the middle of it you're not going to spot it anyway. <br/><br/>Just getting up in the morning and making it through each day was progress for me for a long time because it gave me faith in myself that I could keep doing it, I could take those little baby steps and slowly make them bigger steps. It's not an easy place to be and you have to congratulate yourself heartily for each small accomplishment otherwise you'll get discouraged. <br/><br/>When you're down, pat yourself on the back separately for each single accomplishment - getting up out of bed, getting in the shower, doing what you have to do. Each small chore costs a great deal more when you're depressed and it's important to recognize that. Because the opposite of doing those things is climbing into bed, pulling the covers over your head, and waiting for the earth to swallow you up. That's what we *want* to do. We need to really appreciate the fact that we're NOT doing that. <br/><br/>Chani - So many people think it's just them, it's the way it is supposed to be.. but that's not always true. Men are even worse at it than we women are - I'll admit I have put off going to the doctor too but most guys have to have deep puncture wounds before they'll let a doctor take a look at them.. :(<br/><br/>Just this year a man here in Australia was bitten by a snake. He didn't feel too bad, so he thought he'd see a doctor tomorrow. Turns out it was a venomous snake and when tomorrow came he was dead. :(<br/><br/>So I am really glad Sephy was willing to step up and ask the doctor, too. :)<br/><br/>Catherine - I'm planning a bit more on this topic over the next week or so because it turns out a lot of people are suffering from this and it is making me remember things I went through. If I express it and get it out it might help not only me.<br/><br/>Christine - depression is one of the most difficult battles I have ever fought. It's not till you get to the other side of it that you see just how deep that yawning chasm was.<br/><br/>Thanks for the comments everyone, this is a really important topic. :)<br/><br/>Snoskred<br/>http://www.snoskred.org/ Sober Briquette - progress is not necessarily seen until you stand back and take a look at the big picture from a distance. Deleting the blogs makes it harder to see that progress - it’s like you write a book chapter by chapter but when you get to stand back and look at your work, there’s only the most recent chapter there because the rest has been eaten by bookworms. ;) If you leave it there long enough you will see it and often when you’re in the middle of it you’re not going to spot it anyway.

Just getting up in the morning and making it through each day was progress for me for a long time because it gave me faith in myself that I could keep doing it, I could take those little baby steps and slowly make them bigger steps. It’s not an easy place to be and you have to congratulate yourself heartily for each small accomplishment otherwise you’ll get discouraged.

When you’re down, pat yourself on the back separately for each single accomplishment - getting up out of bed, getting in the shower, doing what you have to do. Each small chore costs a great deal more when you’re depressed and it’s important to recognize that. Because the opposite of doing those things is climbing into bed, pulling the covers over your head, and waiting for the earth to swallow you up. That’s what we *want* to do. We need to really appreciate the fact that we’re NOT doing that.

Chani - So many people think it’s just them, it’s the way it is supposed to be.. but that’s not always true. Men are even worse at it than we women are - I’ll admit I have put off going to the doctor too but most guys have to have deep puncture wounds before they’ll let a doctor take a look at them.. :(

Just this year a man here in Australia was bitten by a snake. He didn’t feel too bad, so he thought he’d see a doctor tomorrow. Turns out it was a venomous snake and when tomorrow came he was dead. :(

So I am really glad Sephy was willing to step up and ask the doctor, too. :)

Catherine - I’m planning a bit more on this topic over the next week or so because it turns out a lot of people are suffering from this and it is making me remember things I went through. If I express it and get it out it might help not only me.

Christine - depression is one of the most difficult battles I have ever fought. It’s not till you get to the other side of it that you see just how deep that yawning chasm was.

Thanks for the comments everyone, this is a really important topic. :)

Snoskred
http://www.snoskred.org/

]]> By: Christine http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8870 Christine Fri, 20 Jul 2007 19:12:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8870 i am so happy that you are ready to work on getting better. depression is so hard and scary. you have a good friend in sno. be well. . . i am so happy that you are ready to work on getting better. depression is so hard and scary. you have a good friend in sno. be well. . .

]]> By: Catherine http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8868 Catherine Fri, 20 Jul 2007 18:23:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8868 Wow...thank you both for sharing this. Depression is so real. Wow…thank you both for sharing this. Depression is so real.

]]> By: thailandchani http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8863 thailandchani Fri, 20 Jul 2007 14:27:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8863 Good on you, Sephy, for being willing to seek out the possibility of a medical solution. Sometimes our bodies don't provide what we need, so we need chemical assistance. As one with a mood disorder for which I am medicated, I can't begin to tell you what a relief it is to not be stuck in a dark place when it simply doesn't have to be that way. <br/><br/>You will come through this.. Be gentle with yourself.. and know you are doing the best you can.. for right here, right now. :)<br/><br/>Best to you, <br/><br/><br/>~Chani Good on you, Sephy, for being willing to seek out the possibility of a medical solution. Sometimes our bodies don’t provide what we need, so we need chemical assistance. As one with a mood disorder for which I am medicated, I can’t begin to tell you what a relief it is to not be stuck in a dark place when it simply doesn’t have to be that way.

You will come through this.. Be gentle with yourself.. and know you are doing the best you can.. for right here, right now. :)

Best to you,

~Chani

]]> By: Sober Briquette http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8862 Sober Briquette Fri, 20 Jul 2007 12:51:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8862 Thanks to you both. I will visit Sephy's blog today.<br/><br/>I think I do the same thing. I'm an ox on a mill.<br/><br/>One of the reasons I started the blog was to see some progress. No progress is probably one of the reasons I have deleted my blog three times in 8 months. Thanks to you both. I will visit Sephy’s blog today.

I think I do the same thing. I’m an ox on a mill.

One of the reasons I started the blog was to see some progress. No progress is probably one of the reasons I have deleted my blog three times in 8 months.

]]> By: Snoskred http://www.snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go.html/comment-page-1#comment-8861 Snoskred Fri, 20 Jul 2007 09:10:00 +0000 http://snoskred.org/2007/07/about-letting-it-go/#comment-8861 Sephy thank you for posting this here, and I am hopeful that this first step you've taken will be followed by many other steps. ;)<br/><br/>Snoskred<br/>http://www.snoskred.org/ Sephy thank you for posting this here, and I am hopeful that this first step you’ve taken will be followed by many other steps. ;)

Snoskred
http://www.snoskred.org/

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