Snoskred - Life in the Country

I have not spoken to my sister since Sunday the 19th of November. Long-term readers of the blog may remember what happened, if not you want to read these two posts which will explain pretty much everything. I did send her two emails in January or so, but that did not go down well either - see here.

My parents did end up seeing their grandkids sometime in February or March, when they had to visit Sydney for a few days and my sister decided to grace them with her presence by staying in their hotel - and my parents had to pay for her presence - and it was very expensive, something like $300 a night.

This evening at our usual weekly chinese dinner, Mum advised me that my sister may be coming down to stay sometime in the next two weeks. She also let spill a few facts she’d been keeping to herself - that my sister went to Adelaide and charged the hotel to my parents Visa card. It wasn’t just one room because my sister is apparently incapable of travelling without an entourage. These days the entourage is her partner’s parents, who have been dragged here almost every time my sister has visited. It also wasn’t a reasonably priced hotel, because my sister does not do anything less than 5 star. It also would have involved charges for room service, because my sister likes to eat plenty of room service when in an expensive hotel.

Mum did not say how much the charge was for but by the sound of things it was not cheap. She said “Well, at least I didn’t have to pay the airfares this time” - I said did you check your frequent flyer statement? It’s very likely my sister used their points without asking. After all, they have enough banked up to fly round the world several times.

My sister has all their numbers, visa card, frequent flyer, etc. She’s not afraid to use them, she’ll do it without asking. It’s almost as if she thinks she is entitled to do this. If my Mum gives me permission to put something on her visa which she has done before, I write down the number, charge it on the net, and then tear up the paper. I haven’t memorised it or got it tattooed on the back of my hand or anything. I don’t have their frequent flyer number or the pin to log into it.

So while I fight the 419 scammers daily, I have one of the biggest scammers of all time within my own family. She wasn’t speaking to me at first, and now I’m not speaking to her because I think her behaviour has been disgraceful. If she comes down here I won’t be seeing her, I have no desire to. I do hope the kids might be able to make it down the street to see me, but given her lack of care for my relationship with them, it might not happen. I’m over it at this point. Really. I adore my nephews more than anyone will ever know and it tears me up to know how they are treated by her and her partner. I think it’s safest just to “harden my heart” so it doesn’t hurt as much as it does.

But speaking of spending, my Dad has committed to buying a car. I’m foggy on the details but I know it is a really expensive car. He’s worked hard and he deserves to treat himself. I’m just not sure what the point is of buying such a hugely pricey one. It’s over $60,000 that much I do know, it might be closer to $75,000. He would have won that much at the local RSL pokie machines since he’s been here. You wouldn’t believe his luck in that area - on average he wins around $3,000 a week.

Playing the pokie machines is not a good thing, I do not recommend it to anyone but he enjoys it, he has a limit of how much he’ll put in and if he doesn’t win he walks away once he hits that limit. He works 7 days a week (though the weekend days he leaves about 1pm to go home and have a nap before going back to close the shop) and he works very hard.

I love my parents. I’m seriously considering disowning my sister. I do not know who she is and I do not know what happened to the person she once was, the person I completely adored. I can’t sit here hoping that person will come back. It’s pointless. Focus on the good, or something..

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