Comments on: Combat strategies http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html Life in the Country Sat, 6 Sep 2008 04:57:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Paul http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-11892 Paul Tue, 01 Jan 2008 20:00:45 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-11892 Yes I have seen a deep depression in my father after my mother died. I think he will never get over the shock, and really I know the say time is a great healer, but really at times my father doesn't want to do anything anymore. Lots of good advice on your blog BTW. Yes I have seen a deep depression in my father after my mother died. I think he will never get over the shock, and really I know the say time is a great healer, but really at times my father doesn’t want to do anything anymore.
Lots of good advice on your blog BTW.

]]> By: Counselling to me... http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-10829 Counselling to me... Sat, 10 Nov 2007 07:52:41 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-10829 [...] this weekend (ie; crisis point) I noticed over at Life In The Country, a post entitled Combat Strategies: Fighting Depression so I clicked through and followed the link to Lifeline and searched there for my local health [...] […] this weekend (ie; crisis point) I noticed over at Life In The Country, a post entitled Combat Strategies: Fighting Depression so I clicked through and followed the link to Lifeline and searched there for my local health […]

]]> By: Marquis http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8841 Marquis Fri, 20 Jul 2007 02:18:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8841 Hey Snokskred,<br/><br/>It's my first visit to your site and there's some really great stuff here - will become regular reading methinks.<br/><br/>I agree with both yourself and Diddums that sometimes you just need to give yourself permission to stay in bed. <br/><br/>Pardon a product plug but this is genuine and hopefully useful to others. One book which I and several friends have found REALLY helpful in handling depression is called "Beat Depression and Reclaim Your Life" by Alexandra Massey. The first step it advises is doing exactly that and allowing yourself time to accept and experience how you are feeling rather than simply deny or distract yourself. <br/><br/>http://www.dymocks.com.au/ProductDetails/ProductDetail.aspx?R=9780753509890<br/><br/>In my experience, I found myself getting in the circular habbit of promising myself I would do things and then feel bad when I failed to achieve anything for the day (or days on end). It was like having an invisible parent sitting on my shoulder nagging and judging and constantly being disappointed by my behaviour. As soon as I decided to let myseslf indulge for a while without guilt and say "I choose to stay in bed for a few days and wallow in it"- I found that pretty soon, I got bored with it. There was something empowering about being able to take the world on my own terms for a while. It was a long and slow road, and one which is still familiar. And as your advice states - you do need to seek professional help. <br/><br/>Another great service in Oz is Relationships Australia- http://www.relationships.com.au/. -Government funded but non-political and non-religious. The quality of the counsellor we dealt with there was better than any I've ever known. I'd always thought that it was only for people with domestic violence or relationship breakdown. My new partner and I didn't want to sabotage our great relationship with old patterns of behaviour from things we hadn't dealt with and RA have been really great for helping us to avoid that. RA offer services to married couples, de facto, same sex and even singles if the issues themselves relate to problems involving relationships. If it doesn't relate directly to relationships per se, they'll refer you to someone who can help address other issues. Hey Snokskred,

It’s my first visit to your site and there’s some really great stuff here - will become regular reading methinks.

I agree with both yourself and Diddums that sometimes you just need to give yourself permission to stay in bed.

Pardon a product plug but this is genuine and hopefully useful to others. One book which I and several friends have found REALLY helpful in handling depression is called “Beat Depression and Reclaim Your Life” by Alexandra Massey. The first step it advises is doing exactly that and allowing yourself time to accept and experience how you are feeling rather than simply deny or distract yourself.

http://www.dymocks.com.au/ProductDetails/ProductDetail.aspx?R=9780753509890

In my experience, I found myself getting in the circular habbit of promising myself I would do things and then feel bad when I failed to achieve anything for the day (or days on end). It was like having an invisible parent sitting on my shoulder nagging and judging and constantly being disappointed by my behaviour. As soon as I decided to let myseslf indulge for a while without guilt and say “I choose to stay in bed for a few days and wallow in it”- I found that pretty soon, I got bored with it. There was something empowering about being able to take the world on my own terms for a while. It was a long and slow road, and one which is still familiar. And as your advice states - you do need to seek professional help.

Another great service in Oz is Relationships Australia- http://www.relationships.com.au/. -Government funded but non-political and non-religious. The quality of the counsellor we dealt with there was better than any I’ve ever known. I’d always thought that it was only for people with domestic violence or relationship breakdown. My new partner and I didn’t want to sabotage our great relationship with old patterns of behaviour from things we hadn’t dealt with and RA have been really great for helping us to avoid that. RA offer services to married couples, de facto, same sex and even singles if the issues themselves relate to problems involving relationships. If it doesn’t relate directly to relationships per se, they’ll refer you to someone who can help address other issues.

]]> By: Rufus http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8237 Rufus Sun, 10 Dec 2006 18:03:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8237 Very good advice there, my Aussie friend. Very good advice there, my Aussie friend.

]]> By: Kirsten http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8224 Kirsten Wed, 06 Dec 2006 10:18:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8224 Volunteer websites - <br /><br />AU <a href="http://www.govolunteer.com.au/">http://www.govolunteer.com.au/</a><br /><br />Canada <a href="http://www.govolunteer.ca/">http://www.govolunteer.ca/</a><br /><br />California <a href="http://www.csc.ca.gov/volunteer/volunteer.asp">http://www.csc.ca.gov/volunteer/volunteer.asp</a><br /><br />Volunteer abroad <a href="http://www.unitedplanet.org/quest.html">http://www.unitedplanet.org/quest.html</a><br /><br />Can you tell I've been researching volunteer places lately? Is it obvious? Volunteer websites -

AU http://www.govolunteer.com.au/

Canada http://www.govolunteer.ca/

California http://www.csc.ca.gov/volunteer/volunteer.asp

Volunteer abroad http://www.unitedplanet.org/quest.html

Can you tell I’ve been researching volunteer places lately? Is it obvious?

]]> By: Diddums http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8223 Diddums Tue, 05 Dec 2006 20:02:00 +0000 http://www.snoskred.org/2006/12/combat-strategies.html#comment-8223 I can vouch for the thing you said in point 3 - where you gave yourself permission to stay in bed if you honestly couldn't face getting up, and found that you didn't want to stay in bed anyway. That works for agoraphobia too. I was walking to work every morning - when I was feeling particularly bad, I would say to myself "just walk as far as the next lamp post, and if you still feel terrible, I will let you go home. The world will just have to do without you for another day... but just try getting to the next lamp post first."<br /><br />Somehow, you never find yourself going home - the pressure is just off. I can vouch for the thing you said in point 3 - where you gave yourself permission to stay in bed if you honestly couldn’t face getting up, and found that you didn’t want to stay in bed anyway. That works for agoraphobia too. I was walking to work every morning - when I was feeling particularly bad, I would say to myself “just walk as far as the next lamp post, and if you still feel terrible, I will let you go home. The world will just have to do without you for another day… but just try getting to the next lamp post first.”

Somehow, you never find yourself going home - the pressure is just off.

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